Saturday, October 03, 2009
-Words are powerful, even when you don't know it is.-
Until last night, or rather this morning... i just found out something that i should have understood for the past few years... words are powerful, directly or indirectly, it's harsh or it's soft, concern, or over concern... it doesn't matter... it's the tone, the words used, and the timing, as well as the other party who is receiving the words, and how they interpret those words, usually leads to many misunderstanding, many assumption, many misconception. all these words can turn out good, or turn out bad, it will depends on individual people, and individual maturity.
well... few years back, maybe close to 8years or 9, i indirectly mention this word to someone about 9-10years old, "why you cut like a mop?", just a simple maybe jokingly or not, i don't remember... made an impact on this person, not talking for 3years... imagine that... powerful not?
then about 4years back... i said something harsh on another person regards to bgr advise, and end up... even words can't explain...
does words really hurts? yes it does... therefore i understand the pain in it. how to mend those? one have to give-in, and it takes lots of courage to even send a simple message across, not knowing if you will ever get a reply or not... but it doesn't matter, all you need is to take the first step. even if, it's not totally your fault, and it's party both at fault. but, it takes 2 hands to clap to mend this friendship.
you may sometimes be impacted by words that hurts your pride, your ego, your emotional, but that's life. when hurts are too hurting, it always good to solve it. and not escape it. i escape quite often, and ended up even more sad, sometimes its good to bring out this hurt and solve it.
God want all of us to love... love not only ourselves, but everyone! thou it's the hardest, therefore it's the most important.
love to forgive even it's hard to forgive.
i super hate my second gf. and i always wanted to bash that bastard who came into the picture (if ever he dares to appear in my presence), i will still bash him no matter what. just to relief my anger... but God doesn't approve it, because God didn't allow that bastard to appear in my presence... haha...
but how? God ask me to forgive my ex. FORGIVE le, it's so hard!!! but do i have a choice? NO! if i want to have God's blessing... I need to forgive the one who hurts me the most... who stabbed me until sibei jialat... you know? SIBEI JIALAT!
i don't know why am i posting this... maybe too many misunderstanding that needed to be solve la. so i share my feelings and stand.
but one thing i know i will never say. that word is "sorry" if i am not totally in the wrong. this word had been overrated, overused and not effective at all.
i had my stand, and beliefs. therefore i know i will offend many people. but guess what? that's me. you want the true me as a friend, i will rebuke you if you're wrong, if you're mislead, or you're heading the wrong direction. it's whether you want to trust me, or not. and usually, if i rebuke you, is i care for you. my ways may be harsh at times, or very offensive. but if you trust me, trust me. i mean well, never harm.
anyway, i think i go out of topic already, going too far, ha.
okay, just to conclude... people, when you care for someone, please use nicer words when you rebuke others. as words can be very dangerous at times. i mention 2 experiences of harsh words on 2 people that i care for. so, it's time for me to learn to control and not to be impulsive in giving comments! ha. therefore, lets learn to listen more, understand more, before giving advise. but when it's really time that you need to rebuke on impulse, don't drag so long to ask for forgiveness... it's quite hard to heal things that is drag so long.
i know that. let God heal...
enjoy!
God bless people...
moonlighting!!!
Nelvin Blogged @ 2:19 PM
